Own the Moments That Matter
This is Leadership Redefined
We’ve been taught a myth:
that leadership belongs to the select few—those with titles, credentials, or control.
But leadership isn’t a role you’re handed. It’s a way you choose to live.
Leadership is a lifestyle, not a job title.
It’s found in the choice to grab the handle that holds—especially when it’s hard.
It’s accessible, practical, and deeply human.
This is the difference between passing time… and truly living.
This is not another leadership book.
It is a practical guide to living like it matters
Choose the Handle That Holds invites you to step off autopilot and into the kind of leadership that actually holds up in real life.
Blending timeless Stoic wisdom with raw, personal stories, this book challenges the myth that life is short—and makes the case for leading it with intention, integrity, and purpose.
If you’re ready to stop drifting and start owning your time, your choices, and your life… this is where you start.
“Leadership isn’t granted by a title—it’s chosen in the way you live.
Power depends on position. Leadership doesn’t. A CEO isn’t automatically a leader any more than a trophy makes you a champion.
What holds is character, not credentials.”
Leadership Redefined —
Raw, Real, Relatable
Forget the overly polished, overly rehearsed speaker. Becky brings a candid, unscripted approach that feels real—and lands where it matters. Her talks are tailored to each audience, blending humor, hard truths, and actionable insight in a way that’s anything but canned.
Speaking with her audience—not at them—Becky shows how vulnerability, when grounded in confidence, creates true connection. She challenges outdated myths, redefines what leadership looks like, and invites every person in the room to own the moments that matter.
Work with Becky
Consulting, programs & Trainings
Stoic Edge is leadership development grounded in action. Through customized trainings, values-driven consulting, and the SAFE and STOA frameworks, I help organizations build leadership cultures that hold—under pressure, in conflict, and through change. It’s not about managing better. It’s about leading differently—at every level.
1:1 Executive leadership Coaching
This isn’t productivity hacks or surface-level strategy.
This is coaching for people who are ready to unlock the leadership edge to live, lead and own the moments that matter.
Speaking and Keynotes
If you’re looking for a typical motivational speaker, keep looking.
But you want someone to challenge how your audience thinks and leave them curious about leadership, time, and what actually matters—let’s talk. Curiosity continues long after motivation fades.
Team Building & Leadership Retreats
Unlock the leadership edge with team-building in a setting unlike any other. From hands-on activities in a farmhouse-style commercial kitchen to archery challenges, every event is shaped around your team’s needs. The fairytale treehouse in the timber & friendly goats, create a place for genuine connection with plenty of fun. Participants emerge with stronger ties and a renewed sense of purpose.
Book Launch Events, Signings & Interviews
Bring Choose the Handle That Holds to your community, team or book club. Host a book signing, invite me to speak, or bring your team together for a facilitated discussion around Choose the Handle That Holds. This isn’t a passive read—it’s a leadership guide meant to be lived.
Local to Iowa City area?
Visit beckysmindfulkitchen.com for private events, birthday parties and summer camp information.
4139 Crosheck Rd NE, Solon, IA 52333
Phone
(319) 325-3464
Hours
By appointment 8am-10pm
You will turn right onto Crosheck which is 1 mile after turning onto Anchorage Rd. Then take your FIRST left at the big red barn and go down the drive to the white house.
The house at the top of the hill is our awesome neighbor and I ask that you do not block their driveway or park in the apron. The play structure is also on their property and is off limits and please do not walk on their lawn.
Zero parking allowed on the street.
There is a sign that says 'Drop Here and circle drive' - feel free to stop here to drop off anything you have brought for the event. Then circle around and pull up to the "Park Here" sign facing up the drive on the righthand side.
Do not park in front of the house at bottom of drive UNLESS your group consists of no more than 4 cars.
There is room for two cars to pass each other on the driveway. The entrance to BMK around the back of the home. Follow the path past the goat cottage to the back deck.